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Parental messages in coaching

I was thinking today how people live their lives based upon the messages that they would have received from parenting.

Within coaching sessions these messages come out in the way that people self-sabotage what they set out to do and achieve.

This is almost always subconscious and automatic and through coaching we help people understand in how they might be doing this, where this comes from and, importantly, help them to move forward from some of these self defeating patterns.

A very interesting part of transformational coaching is looking at the realm of Transactional Analysis.

Many people will know the book Games People Play by Eric Berne, which brought the idea of TA to the modern world.

One part of TA it looks at the concept of injunctions.

What are these?

Simply put they are unconscious messages that we pick up on as children from our parents. Read more

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10 key questions to kick start your coaching

For those in the know and for those who are interested in the field of coaching one of the key parts of gaining results and helping people to fundamentally transform their lives will be asking simple and purposeful questions.

There isn’t a rulebook of questions that needs to be adhered to or a cheats guide in how to do this.

Once you have established rapport with a client, built on the trust that is on going and essential for coaching to be useful you will need to then work with the client in establishing an arena for change and what they want to gain from working with you.

I have put together 10 key questions that are simple to deliver, purposeful in their aim and allow the client to reflect on what they would like to see change in their life and also lead into further questioning.

Also and very importantly it allows the client to feel the impact of what your coaching could give them in positive ways. Read more

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Cognitive Behavioural Coaching

From the original blog post at: transformationallifecoaching.co.uk

When I think of coaching and all that people believe coaching to be there is a strong emphasis on task-based approaches leading to a goal being achieved and quite often action plans that focus on doingrather than being.

Within CBC (Cognitive Behavioural Coaching) there are some key pillars that underpin client interactions.

• Coaching provides a safe place for personal exploration
• The dynamic of “effective coaching” allows for self actualization for the client
• It is fully person centred and integrative
• CBC allows deeper meaning for the client and their experience and goes beneath the goal as the focus of the session

Cognitive behavioural coaching focuses on the internal world of the client, which could include values, beliefs, cognitions, physiology, emotions and results.

That’s not to say that there isn’t an element of actions and goals built into the coaching interactions but the shift will happen for the client on a deeper level and this in turn can create new openings and a future focus on how they will show up in the world based on these shifts.

In today’s society people are wanting more than a quick fix and an action plan.

Many times people can achieve their goal quite swiftly but may return to the original place of frustration wondering how they got back to there and questioning themselves and they change they want.

The reason why, is that without working on the deeper structures of experience the client could  just be going around in circles and not moving ahead with any sort of permanency.

This can create further frustration and can fuel the negative mind sets that could be underpinning the clients original challenges.

Within a typical CBC based session the coaching practitioner would be looking to work with the client on emotive, important issues for them and really get to the core of the clients difficulties by using simple and powerful questioning, a sense of holding space for the client and allowing the conversation to naturally flow without the coach needing to fix, provide solutions or work to an agenda of a hard and fast goal being in place.

As in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy the skilled coaching practitioner would be looking at faulty thought biases and how this could be impacting the client in negative ways.  An example would be catastrophizing  – “everything is always bad! – how many times have you heard this or possibly thought it yourself?

Through a CBC approach we can start to unpick what these thought structures are which will also affect clients physical responses and results both practically and emotionally . We can help clients formulate a different way of doing things with more positive results.

CBC can help with:

• Limiting beliefs
• Negative cycles of behaviour
• Low confidence and self-esteem
• Compulsive behaviours
• Interpersonal issues
• Any pattern that runs enough times for it to be a problem and so much more

Coaching isn’t a one stop for change but done skilfully, with congruence and trust the effects can be truly transformational.

 

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Claim your OWN fantastic

I was listening to someone I know speak recently about a conference that they were going to run by an amazing person.
This person was going to be talking about how to change your life, how to create success and also how to be fantastic.

This inspired me to write my ideas of being fantastic.

I hear so many people approach their lives in a way of when I achieve …x…..I can become ….y…..
They put limitations on their potential based on an idea that I cant become ……… until I have …..

Whether that be the perfect job, the loving relationship, affluence, a fitter body, a stimulated and intelligent mind and so much more. Read more

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