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2013 beckons! This is our year, what’s yours? |
Are you planning your 2013 business or life yet?
So many people make New Year’s resolutions that fail at the first hurdle.
But what about planning what you want to achieve? How many of us really do that?
I thought I’d share my plans for 2013 at the Smart School and my role in it as the founder. So, in the famous words of Dermot O’Leary – in no particular order…
- The continued improvement and growth of the core programmes including the launch of Dynamic Youth Coaching and a Health and Wellness Coaching programme.
- Cutting down on the number of coaching intakes to allow our head of course, Paul Kensett, to focus on developing other aspects of the programme including, potentially, a Master Coaching Programme.
- Launching the Master NLP Therapist Programme in April with Peggy Guglielmino.
- Revealing a beautiful new website in the second quarter of 2013 with unique sub-sites for each programme enabling us to share our message more fully with people interested in what we do.
- Running two major conferences – one on Authentic Happiness and another on Reclaim your Power and I’ll be looking for Smart School coaches as well as some bigger names to speak at these.
As for me, I have decided to stop training personally next year other than completing the programme for my lovely Rapid Results Business Coaching group and honing the Existential Course in February and May.
Finally, I plan to make a documentary style video on the issues that we confront at the Smart School in terms of why people need coaches and NLP practitioners and how culture locks people into certain ways of thinking about themselves.
So that’s my plan for 2013 – what’s yours?
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Can you make a living as a life coach? |
Many people who train at the Smart School want to create a living as a coach or, as is often the case, blend coaching with an existing therapeutic practice.
For those who want to use coaching in the work place, the title of this post won’t have much relevance but for many it’s a real and present issue.
We’re asked it a lot! “Can you make a living as a life coach?”
And my answer is typically – if you’re prepared to do what it takes.
You see, learning how to be a coach is not the same as being one. If I were to go on a plumbing course, I wouldn’t magically turn into a professional plumber with requisite boiler suit, van and list of houses to attend. I’d have to take that new skill and find people (or get found by people) who need it.
Interestingly, what most people REALLY mean is – will people pay for life coaching? Is there a market for it? And the answer to that one is much simpler. Yes!
People can and do pay for coaching both in the business setting and in their wider personal life. People will pay for something if it gives them the value they’re after. And if that something is a change in their life and they understand how you’re part of their journey to making that change, then yes, they’ll pay.
So once more it comes back to you. Are you prepared to do what’s needed?
The coaches who succeed learn quickly that you need to get active making connections. That could be in your local town or your industry or in a given niche. It doesn’t really matter too much which you choose so long as you know what you stand for, what change you can bring about and then meet people who need what you do.
And as a life coach, that could be anyone! So you need to talk to people. Not SELL to them. Talk to them. Find out what’s happening in their life, what they’re frustrated with, what they’d like to have or to achieve, what’s stopping them.
And then, IF you think you’re the right person for them, you tell them so.
Learn these words carefully: “I can help!” and make sure you believe it because if you don’t they won’t!
The truth is that there is a huge market for life coaching. It’s just that most coaches shrink from putting themselves “out there” for fear of rejection or looking salesy!
I say, get over it! You have a job to do to help people grow and to reclaim their power to make choices. As a coach you have this skill. How could you not go and do it?
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The belief at the very heart of the Smart School |
Sometimes it’s easy to get lost in the day to day activity of what you do. And that’s as true for me as for anyone.
So I like to step back and remind myself of the reasons behind what I do.
You see, if you think about it, training coaches and NLP therapists is an odd kind of profession. It didn’t exist 30 years ago and it might not exist in 30 years time! I have no idea!
But what will still exist though is the reason behind what I do. That’s because there is a value behind things which is much greater than than the tasks you do to achieve it. In my case, there is a value that training coaches and therapists allows me to achieve.
I was thinking about this today and spoke to my trainers and some friends to ask what they thought it was all about. After all, sometimes it’s hard to see the wood for the trees and outside eyes can add perspective. I asked, “what is the purpose that drives our activity. It’s not training coaches – that’s the thing we do. The question is why?”
Now at this point, it’s easy to get caught up in fine words and high-sounding principles. But to me, it’s important to get to what’s really true. It’s time to get rid of the aspirational language and know what you believe in your very core.
So I stripped away the language that didn’t resonate with me – living with passion, being the very best etc - I don’t think these are at the root of what we do. I think it’s perfectly OK to live non-passionately so long as you’re happy. Who ever said we had to wake up every day with passion pounding in our heart. Is it even realistic? And who said we have to be our very best! To me that sounds like hard work. Your very best! Blimey, that’s hard going!
I realised that for me, the value at the heart of it all was a belief.
A belief that we all have the ability to choose the life we want to lead.
That life doesn’t have to be defined by particular qualities like excellence, spirituality, passion, success or being the best. It’s defined by you. It’s your life. But it is a choice.
This isn’t some utopian doctrine that we can all easily be happy or even that we deserve to be. We don’t! There is no deserve. There’s just the results of the choices we make (or don’t make.)
I believe we can all choose the life we want to create and we all have it within us to face the challenges along the way. Whether we get it or not depends on how we take responsibility for making it happen. And perhaps there’s even a dollop of luck involved – who knows!
So what’s that got to do with coaches then?
Well, although my belief is that we all have the ability to choose our future, I see all around me people not making those choices. They grumble, make excuses, blame the government, their ex or their boss. They don’t act now, they didn’t act then and they probably won’t act when. Some people look to themselves as not good enough, others look to their environment as not good enough and others look to bad luck. Some just grow careless about their lives – learned helplessness.
Jean-Jacques Rousseau, the 18th century philosopher said “Man is born free, yet he is everywhere in chains.” Although he was referring to political chains, his words are equally relevant now except the chains today are largely made in the mind.
In short, I see people stuck in patterns of behaviour, thoughts and beliefs that leave them feeling disempowered. But notice that word though. They feel disempowered but they’re not actually disempowered.
At any time, anyone can make new choices and new decisions. They can act differently and get different outcomes in their life. And I believe that this the most important realisation anyone can have. You are not a slave of your past, present or future. You always have the key to the perceived chains.
So training coaches and NLP therapists is my contribution to changing this in some small way. The guys we train go out and make a difference in people’s lives by showing them that they have choices and helping them step into them.
And as we train our coaches and therapists, not only do we give them the space to change their lives but we help them change the lives of many more through the work they do with their clients.
For me it is so clear that almost everything we have in our lives is the result of choice. And, yes, sometimes that belief can be uncomfortable and challenging. But it’s a far more empowering belief. And in all we do here at the Smart School we’re ultimately aiming to help people to take back their choice of the life they want to live.
That belief in our power to choose existed long before me and it’ll exist long after me. I merely carry the torch for it in my own way right now.
That’s why we do what we do.
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