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Introducing Person-Centred NLP |
This blog post is the first from our new blog at http://personcentrednlp.com
Hi, welcome to my new blog! My name is Peggy and I’m the director of the new Person-Centred NLP course at the Smart School. You may be wondering “so, what’s person-centred NLP”?! That’s a very good question.
Person-centred NLP was born out of observation of the current NLP world. NLP has got a reputation for being a quick-fix tool that can help people solve their issues almost at the click of a finger. When I first learnt NLP, I must confess that’s exactly what I did. Got the client in, quickly run through their history, and jump in with one of the brilliant NLP process I had in my magic tool box. Most of the time, it did the trick. However, when checking on some of those clients a few months later, I had quite a percentage of people reporting the changes weren’t quite as powerful as expected on the long run.
So when I saw those clients again, we started an in-depth conversation in order to find out underlying issues that were getting in the way. And the more we talked, the more we naturally created a special relationship, that seemed to be allowing my clients to make lasting changes in a more natural way.
With time growing, I spent more and more time developing this kind of relationship until I realized that some of my clients were getting incredible results, sometimes even without the help of NLP or hypnotherapy standard “exercises”. And it simply confirmed what studies had already shown, the fact that how the client and the therapist relate is one of the most important aspects of a successful therapeutic encounter, regardless of the therapy.
NLP person-centred therapy was then born and is deeply inspired by Carl Rogers six conditions needed to produce personality changes:
- Psychological contact or a relationship between the therapist and the client (on the professional basis of course!), where there’s rapport and respect of both persons as important individuals.
- Client’s congruence, where the client actually is aware of the issue and genuinely wants to change it.
- Therapist’s congruence: now I personally think this is a very important one: the therapist is genuinely involved in the session and will display honesty and care for their client.
- Therapist gives unconditional positive regard towards the client, with a genuine belief that the client has all the inner resources and the capacity to change
- Therapist’s empathy, where the therapist feels compassion and empathy for the client in order to fully understand their map of the world
- Client’s perception of the therapist’s empathy: not only is it necessary for the therapist to have empathy, but it is essential that the client receives it appropriately.
I have been applying those principles in my personal NLP/hypnotherapy practice for a while now and I have noticed indeed how much more effective those sessions were. I do believe that in order to change, people need unconditional support and approval, and I think that’s what describes best in essence our new person-centred NLP approach.
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case study #4 How the practitioner’s belief can influence the client’s results |
This case study is quite an important one for our person centred NLP approach, especially regarding the fourth of the six Sufficient and Necessary Conditions for change inspired by Carl Rogers: That the practitioner believes unconditionally that their client can change from within. It also illustrates very well the NLP presupposition that says “you can’t not communicate”.
I’ve got a client who is 81 year old and wants to lose weight. She’s an absolutely incredible woman and has got an amazing energy and joie-de-vivre. In her quest for happiness, she’s decided to fight her binging pattern and to get fit. I must say that she’s not binging much and generally eats healthy food, but she feels she’s not in control of herself in those situations and that saddens her. After having checked that the changes she wanted were ecological, we started to work using different NLP and hypnosis processes. Read more
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The client already has all the resources they need – NLP Case Study #3 |
Today I saw Clare, one of my regular clients, who initially came to see me a bit more than a year ago for help with low self esteem. Despite having completely sorted out most of her issues, Clare continues to come back because she enjoys her sessions and as she describes it, in her very busy life it’s an opportunity to take some “me time”.
Clare came into my practice feeling quite under the weather and mentioned having a bad sore throat. In the past we have worked on her physical symptoms, such as stomach pain or back ache with impressive quick results, so Clare asked me if we could do the same on her throat. Read more
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Overcoming the seemingly insurmountable – NLP Case Study #2 |
One of my clients today is a young woman who has been diagnosed with clinical depression. Amy is 34 years old and she’s been recommended from her best friend, Clare, who came to see me for the same problem.
Clare was amazingly easy to work with and completely recovered after only five sessions. She was already doing much better than when she was diagnosed a few months before, and wanted my help to gain confidence she could manage to stay well when getting off her anti depressant tablets. I started with doing an anchoring process, followed by a long detailed future pace, and Clare reported that this first session made all the difference. Read more
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NLP Case Study #1: working with trauma |
(This is a real case study – names have been changed)
My first client today was Carol, a lady suffering from depression and high level of stress, who has been coming to see me for a few months. Carol had been recommended to me by her husband, Peter, who had weight issues and got amazing results in only 4 sessions (he lost two stones in a month.)
Carol had been abused physically and sexually as a child and suffered all her life from the aftermath.It quickly appeared that Carol’s core issues were lying in her sense of self-worth.
Very often young victims of abuse develop a sense of guilt and question their inner worth as a survival mechanism and carry this burden into and throughout their adult life. It affects their relationships and their health, like Carol, for example, who put on a lot of weight after the trauma to unconsciously appear unattractive and avoid further abuse.
Carol’s case is one of the most complicated ones I had to see in my practice as there’s a complex underlying net of core issues that are deeply embedded. Read more
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